Also, be warned, there are some harsh swear words many will find offended, I have edited my own usage, but left all logs intact.
It all started about 10/11 months ago with an accusation from suze towards dude, she accused him of calling her a c**t more specifically, as I will show she specifies the word "uracunt" was directed at her, by him.(left that one intact for specifically)
Now obviously, I'm going to take any accusation like this seriously, and I start looking into it by both talking with dude and by searching the logs, suze told me it was said to her in #main which should have made the job very easy and should have provided context to the situation.
dude immediately denied the accusation and if I remember correctly encouraged the search because he was sure I would not find anything, or if it did, he could apologise. This Is where things start getting complicated, I couldn't find it!
I searched my personal logs for the days she thought it had happened and couldn't find anything, dj also searched, still nothing, but she insisted we keep searching and fortunately for me, the way the logging works with my software, it saves each individual month into a separate text file which then allowed me, (and those who are familiar with word processors should know this, you can search for specific words) to quite easily search the entire month and bingo, I found an instance of dude using the word!
On 13 March 2018 I found the following...
Now it's not what she accused him of but I found him saying the word, feeling momentarily disappointed I go back several minutes and start reading what led up to the use of the word to get context and much to my relief I find and/or felt that this could not be the case, you see dude that month had been having problems with his wireless keyboard sporadically malfunctioning, and the context of the log clearly showed this was one of those instances, as you can see for yourselves![05:27:15] <dude> stfuycunt
[05:10:39] Nick change: suzebrb -> suze
[05:10:40] <suze> hi chatty
[05:12:04] Chatty ([email protected]) left irc: Quit: http://www.mibbit.com ajax IRC Client
[05:15:04] <Wen> Hello I am still here I have to b honest I am feeling very lonely but don twant To intrude
[05:15:30] <Astro> Pull up a seat, Wen,...
[05:15:48] <Astro> The coffee's hot
[05:15:58] <PLinFinland> mine's not
[05:16:13] <Wen> Thanks astro
[05:16:37] <Astro> I often alternate from coffee to tea or hot chocolate in the mornings
[05:17:15] <Astro> along with a hoy bowl of oatmeal,... banana, or fruit bread...
[05:17:22] <Astro> hoy = hot
[05:17:48] <Wen> Would u like a hot choc or coffee
[05:18:17] <Astro> couple that with a chatty group of varying subject matter..lol
[05:18:58] <Astro> coffee seems to open eyes...
[05:19:01] <PLinFinland> i think my coffee went cold waiting for this chatty group to appear
[05:19:30] <Astro> might just need a controversial subject...lol
[05:19:43] <PLinFinland> that often helps
[05:20:02] <Astro> stimulate that gray matter...lol
[05:20:51] <PLinFinland> i tried poking a finger in my ear, it didn't help
[05:21:01] <Wen> Yes a good conversation with understanding friends is real good stuff,as well as the coffee, tea or hot chocolate
[05:21:16] <Astro> true enough, Wen.
[05:22:23] CTCP action: screams out scientologists! from dude (dude![email protected]) to #main
[05:22:46] <Astro> getting your collection of shamrocks ready for the 17th?
[05:23:22] Chatty ([email protected]) joined #main.
[05:23:36] <Astro> chatty...
[05:23:36] <dude> not controversial enough astro?
[05:24:15] <Astro> well,... it's a start, Dude
[05:24:40] <dude> could say mormon but i think we have that covered
[05:25:03] <suze> gu xgRRT
[05:25:10] <suze> hi chatty lol
[05:25:32] <Astro> Chatty lost her voice today?
[05:25:51] Action: Astro pokes Chatty to see if she responds
[05:26:04] <Chatty> Ouch lol
[05:26:07] <suze> lol
[05:26:10] <Wen> Ok what is the subject f the day.what is normal no one knows but we can have fun trying to work it out
[05:26:41] <dude> i threw out 2
[05:26:42] <Astro> Atta way, Wen,... you got the ball rolling
[05:26:51] <Chatty> Astro I wacky u one lol.
[05:26:55] <dude> got a encrypted answer
[05:27:04] <Astro> lol, Chatty...
[05:27:15] <dude> stfuycunt
[05:27:26] <dude> kjfnghutyon
[05:27:48] <Chatty> I don t underst lol
[05:27:49] <Astro> all Greek to me, Dude
[05:27:50] <dude> fuckingkeyboard
[05:28:02] boynamedsue ([email protected]) joined #main.
[05:28:08] <Astro> Susan...
[05:28:12] <boynamedsue> hi
[05:28:15] <dude> reset, seems to work
[05:28:16] <PLinFinland> hi boynamedsue
[05:28:17] <suze> hi susan
[05:28:19] <Chatty> Hows suze
[05:28:20] <dude> susan
[05:28:29] <suze> i'm good i'm all excited about my procedure
[05:28:35] <suze> and i'm all dressed and ready
[05:28:37] <suze> woo hoo
Please note some of the highlighted lines, they will be important later, Astro specifically mentions controversial conversation, dude references both Scientology and Mormonism as controversial subjects and you will see why I mention that shortly. Also notice suze joined an already ongoing conversation happening with other people and dude was responding to them, specifically Astro, also have you noticed how she never says anything afterwards, nobody says anything because they took in the context of it was aimed at his keyboard, everybody understood this, but again please remember this for later as it will come back up.
Now I send a larger portion of the log to suze showing more context hoping that maybe this was it and somehow it was a misunderstanding that she thought was directed at her mistakenly and we could put the whole thing behind us, but, she said that this was not the instance as I will show and asked me to continue searching!
Here is her response.
April 25th 2018
At this point, I'm at a bit of a loss and wanting to settle everything, I asked Daniel to use his mighty powerful tools (he's got the good ones) to search back across the time period suze mentioned the incident occurred and he quickly got back to be with the following list of every instance the word had been used over the past few months, as shown below!Tigger this is not the conversation. It began as follows, I came into the room, I said hi chatty, but i misspelled that as my hands were not positioned correctly on the keyboard. so it came out gibberish but if you look at the letters i was trying to say hi chatty, then i typed lol in reacation to my having mistyped that, dude said something about scientology, I did not respond, i am not sure what happened next, but he said URACUNT ort UREACUNT I know he was saying this to me, he was pissed, because only a day or so beforehand we had that heated discussion about Mormonism. He did not say SFUCUNT no no no it was URACUNT or UREACUNT
and no i did not say anything cause frankly i was so taken back, so shocked, so upset. I wanted to leave immediately but stayed in for a short time longer and then left. I came back one or two times more and then I stopped coming in for that specific reason. Please recheck
Now remember, we are almost through towards the end of April, and as you can see here these are the search results of every instance of the word, supplied by Daniel going back to the very beginning of February, Every Instance!disabled.log.02Feb2018:[11:02:06] <Tryingtocope> She sounds like a real cunt
disabled.log.03Apr2018:[04:34:41] <Maddie> Have a good day... stupid cunt. Lol
disabled.log.04Mar2018:[23:56:41] <nashcast> Fuck Shit Cunt Bitch Cock Whore.
disabled.log.06Feb2018:[20:00:16] <jeff> i not too fond of that type of cuntry
disabled.log.12Feb2018:[16:13:19] <Paul> fuck you all fuck cunt rude selfish ignorant fuckes
disabled.log.12Feb2018:[16:17:11] <Paul> thank you aura you biggest cunt fuck i hate all of you for inaction and lie and p
retense what a waste for me to peruse pig fuck shiit dogs. Liars of the most filthy!
disabled.log.12Feb2018:[16:50:41] <Paul> cunt fucj shit
disabled.log.13Mar2018:[05:27:15] <dude> stfuycunt
disabled.log.21Apr2018:[03:15:53] <suze> I have nothing to say to you, you called me a cunt
And I forward this to suze hoping that this is finally going to show her that she must have been mistaken when we could put this all to rest, we just couldn't find anything, nothing, three different independent searches, Nothing!
To which she responds
April 26th 2018
Please note "vividly and completely"I don't know what to say...I remember this vividly and completely. Don't know what to do with this info.
Maybe I just need to leave the room
Unsure of where to go next, I agree that maybe a little space was a good idea so that we can all put this behind us and she stayed away from chat for several days before returning, I hoped that when she did, it would be with a fresh resolve to put everything behind us, but I was wrong. Also I need to add somewhere around this time she also said that we were all wrong, the logs were wrong, Daniels logs and software were wrong, and she was right because she remembered it "vividly and completely"!
Upon her return we start seeing things like this
Seeing this, I wasn't sure what to do, I felt she needed more time so asked dude to give her some space, to keep it to a minimum with just some politeness, greetings and goodbyes etc I just wanted to keep the peace and he responded no problem, WE just wanted to keep the peace, even though we never found any instance of her accusation, we tried, more specifically, dude tried, I also e-mailed suze what I had asked of dude, hoping that just a little time back in the room everything would go back to normal![03:00:15] suze ([email protected]) joined #main.
[03:00:21] <suze> hi
[03:00:22] <dude> suze
[03:00:55] <suze> dude, I would really appreciate it if you did not talk to me
[03:01:19] <dude> oh, ok, if thats what you want
[03:01:25] <suze> thank you
[03:01:33] <dude> not sure what i did..
[03:06:03] suze ([email protected]) left irc: Quit: Disabilities-R-Us v4.2 - Copyright © 1997-2017 Daniel Stanisinski)
I then started receiving e-mails like the following
Aug 11th 2018
Now, remember, we agreed upon minimal interaction, politeness (and in hindsight I'm not sure I should have but we just wanted to keep the peace) I e-mailed informing her I had asked this of dude and she responded okay!It seems dude is not going to respect my wishes so I will put him on ignore from now on
This also wasn't enough and it got to the point where if five different people , one of them being suze were talking about the weather in #main and dude is also mentioned something about the weather, she would also complain about this, so now he wasn't even able to join in with group conversations that she was in even if it wasn't specifically addressed at her, he was just joining in a group conversation.
Here I felt things were getting a little ridiculous, dude told me he felt he was feeling shackled because now by my request he was avoiding general conversations because it was upsetting suze.
I agreed with him, thinking despite everything we have tried we still cannot please her and how could he "operator" effectively as a moderator when his own speech and participation in the room is restricted? I told him to forget it, to just be polite but to not worry any more, we were never going to make her happy!
This went on for a while, I would receive the occasional complaint in pm, she would take the occasional couple of days off and then recently it all came back to, quite strongly in fact!
Then this happened (please continue)